THE STEPMOM SURVIVAL BLUEPRINT
Meet Ashley
When I stepped into the role of a stepmom, I felt lost and unsupported.
After years of navigating challenges, therapy sessions, high-conflict coparenting classes and countless lessons learned, I compiled everything into The Stepmom Survival Blueprint.
This guide offers practical advice, heartfelt encouragement, and actionable steps to help you thrive in your blended family.
You don't have to be perfect.
You just need a plan.
When you're stuck between loyalty binds, high-conflict exes, and unspoken resentment... survival mode becomes normal. This guide will help you breath again--with clear boundaries, scripts, and mindset shifts that work!
"I didn’t write this because I figured it all out. I wrote it because I didn’t think I was going to make it through."
Tier 1 - $10
Tier 2 - $12.99
Tier 3 - $14.99
-7 Real-Life Scenarios
-Word for Word Scripts
-All of Tier 1
-Nervous System Reset
-Invisible Load Inventory
-Loyalty Binds & Child Behavior Cheat Sheet
-All of Tier 2
-Reflection Journal
-5 Bonus Scripts
-Affirmation Deck
-50 Faith Affirmations
Why I Made This...
Over a decade of clinical experience as a registered nurse, an extensive education (MSN), a deep understanding of human physiology and psychology and yet…
None of that prepared me for the silent struggles of being a stepmom.
I was trying to show up for my husband, my kids, my stepkids, and still make room for myself. I felt isolated, misunderstood, and unsure how to move forward.
When I went searching for answers, all I found were generic tips that didn’t touch the chaos I was living.
On my journey I went to therapy, high-conflict coparenting courses, even just witnessing the legal system not only for my own kids but also my husbands.
So I started creating what I needed:
I took notes. I researched. I tested. I healed.
Real tools. Real language. Real perspective. Rooted in faith, neuroscience, and lived experience.
Now I’ve compiled it all into this. This blueprint was born from that journey. It’s everything I wish someone had handed me—when I was hurting, confused, and just trying to do the right thing without losing myself.
What You'll Learn...
What’s Inside the Stepmom Survival Blueprint
-7 Word-for-Word Scripts
For real-life scenarios that blindside you, shut you out, or make you want to scream.
(Think: What to say when you’re ignored, undermined, or guilt-tripped.)
-Boundary Language That Holds
Phrases and strategies that help you draw the line—firmly and lovingly—without spiraling or second-guessing.
-Mindset Shifts for the Hardest Days
Because you can’t control their behavior—but you can reclaim your peace.
-Nervous System Reset
Science based practical tips you can easily do to reset your nervous system on those hard days
-Printable Tools + Templates
Loyalty Binds & Child Behavior cheat sheet, Invisible Load Inventory
-Quick-reference boundaries list, reflection pages, and emotion check-ins to keep you grounded when the chaos hits.
-30 Day Reflection Journal
Prompts, and questions to make you process while allowing you room to grow.
-5 Bonus Scripts
Ones I haven't share ANYWHERE else.
-50 Instagram Story Templates with Faith-Based Affirmations
Quiet, powerful reminders you can return to daily—designed to speak truth over your situation without preaching.
You’ll walk away with:
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A voice that doesn’t shake when you stand your ground
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Peace in knowing you’re not the only one walking this road
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Clarity in moments that normally unravel you
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Confidence to love well without losing yourself
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A support tool built by someone who’s lived it
Who I am...
I'm a Bio Mom of two. A Stepmom of two. A wife. And just like you, I wear many different hats...
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A bio mom navigating co-parenting with my ex.
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A stepmom learning how to support kids with another mom in the picture.
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A wife to a man who also has his own custody schedule, court orders, and emotional history.
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A professional who has spent years studying how stress, trauma, and healing actually work.
But most of all, I’m someone who wants to hold space for you when you feel like no one else gets it.
I won’t pretend to know exactly what you’re going through.
But I will remind you: You’re not crazy. You’re not weak. And you’re not alone.
You're Not Alone...
This role isn’t easy—and you don’t have to pretend it is.
Being a stepmom is one of the most complex, emotionally charged, and under-supported roles out there.
You love deeply. You want to show up well.
But most days, you feel like you’re:
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Being left out of key decisions
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Tiptoeing around someone else’s rules
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Holding your tongue when everything inside you wants to scream
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Carrying guilt—for setting boundaries, for feeling resentment, or just for wanting peace
If any of that resonated..
This guide was made for you.
No fluff. No sugarcoating. Just support.
What are the Packages..
Choose Your Blueprint Path
Tier 1 – Starter ($10)
• Full PDF Guide
• 7 High-Conflict Scenarios
• Word-for-Word Scripts
Tier 2 – Plus Edition ($24 $12.99)
Everything in Tier 1, PLUS:
• Nervous System Reset
• Invisible Load Inventory
• Loyalty Binds & Child Behavior Cheat Sheet
Tier 3 – Complete Bundle ($34 $14.99)
Everything in Tier 2, PLUS:
• Reflection Journal
• 5 Bonus scripts
• 50 IG Story templates with affirmations
• Printables
• Lifetime updates to future versions
This is for the Stepmom who..
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Feels like she’s always walking on eggshells
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Doesn’t know how to speak up without backlash
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Loves her family but struggles to feel like she belongs
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Is tired of Googling for help that never quite hits home
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Just wants to protect her peace and still be a loving presence
You don’t need to “just deal with it.”
You need real support. Real language. Real strategy.
That’s what this is.
A lifeline for the stepmom who’s done playing small.
You’re not crazy. You’re not alone. And you’re allowed to breathe again.
Buy now. Get instant access. Finally exhale.
You don't have to earn peace...
You Just Need a Plan
DON'T MISS THIS
-7 Real-Life Scenarios
-Word for Word Scripts
-Conversations for your spouse, step-kids, and what NOT to say
Tier 2 - $12.99
Tier 3 - $14.99
Tier 1 - $10
-All of Tier 1
-Nervous System Reset
-Invisible Load Inventory
-Loyalty Binds & Child
-Behavior Cheat Sheet
-All of Tier 2
-Reflection Journal
-5 Bonus Scripts
-Affirmation Deck
-50 Faith Affirmations
FINDING PEACE IN CHAOS
We’re the Herrings—a blended family of six doing our best to navigate the chaos, beauty, and challenges that come with complex family dynamics. Around here, we wear a lot of hats. I’m a bio mom and a stepmom. I have a husband and a co-parent. We’re raising both biological and stepchildren.
There’s no perfect formula for this kind of life—no one-size-fits-all guide. And I won’t pretend to have every answer. But I do see you. I know how hard it can be. And I’m here to help lighten the load where I can.
LOVE THROUGH IT ALL
No matter what hat—or hats—you wear, our purpose is the same: to create the healthiest environment possible for our kida.
Sometimes that means doing the hard work—facing our own flaws, healing old wounds. Other times, it means setting boundaries, protecting our peace, and holding space.
Everything I share here—is meant to help with one thing: raising these little ones in a home that’s steady, safe, and full of love.
Because this isn’t about us. It’s for them.
